Wanting something really, really bad doesn’t mean you’re ready for it.
On my 32nd birthday I reflected on the idea that for half of my life, I was always unhappy with my weight and “wanting” to change it. Over the years I’ve tried lots of things – diet, exercise, injections, being more active, nutritional changes, morning routines, lemon water, smoothies for breakfast, intermittent fasting, master cleanse, pills, keto… admitting that I’ve tried all these things also lets you know how many different ways I’ve failed. In fact, my “ideal weight” is now what I considered too heavy at 16. Oh, the irony!
I’ve wanted this change for such a long time and I’ve done lots of things to get there but recently I realized that I wasn’t actually ready at all. I was in love with the idea, enough to attempt change but I wasn’t actually ready for what it would take to reach the weight and overall health that I said I wanted. I wasn’t ready to do the work – to understand my body’s intolerances, eliminate allergy foods, to give up the foods I enjoyed eating but left my body inflamed, to adopt a supplementation protocol that helped keep my energy and mood optimal. Even though I’ve had this information at my fingertips for years – and knew they were the cornerstones of lasting change, I wasn’t ready to do it. So I distracted myself with “lesser” options – things that created the illusion of me making a change but ultimately never worked.
Building a business is the same way – the are plenty of things that we can do that look like we’re working hard – some things very expensive like hiring coaches, buying courses, going to live events, joining masterminds… but just like weight loss, a lot of it is smoke and mirrors which aren’t a substitute for the actions that lead to lasting change. We’re really clever at convincing ourselves that we’re doing all we can.
When you’re truly ready, you won’t have to force yourself or trick yourself… There’s a deeper reason that fuels you through the process. One that makes you say no to dessert… and one that makes you start a blog you’ve “wanted” to write for years…